Let’s talk about stuff you don’t want to google!
You’re not broken. You’re under-supported.
And also… you were likely never actually taught how to want safely.
Most of us learned sex from movies, religion, porn, whispers, or silence. We learned how to perform, how to be polite, how to be desirable, how to be low-maintenance. We did not learn how to listen to our bodies, name our desires, set boundaries, or feel safe asking for what we want.
This is where we slow that down and build those skills, together.
You Can Let Go of Shame
You’re allowed to want more… more pleasure, more clarity, more honesty, more agency in your relationships and your body. Sex coaching is where we explore all of that, without shame, judgment, or a clinical clipboard vibe.
And yes… this is both philosophical and practical. Sex coaching isn’t just talking about feelings (though we absolutely do that).
I can teach techniques, explain how arousal and pleasure actually work, share anatomy and communication scripts, and help you untangle what might be emotional, relational, medical, or just… human.
When everything feels like a tangled mess—body, brain, history, hormones, relationships—we slow it down and separate the threads so you can actually see what’s going on and what might help.
That’s what this work is for.
Not “fixing” you. Not turning you into some mythical goddess archetype (although we can absolutely play with that). Let’s start with coming back to yourself… with curiosity, clarity, and a lot less shame.
Think: mythic energy, human nervous system. Pleasure as a practice, not a performance.
I’m Gwyn Isaacs. Certified Clinical Sexologist, pleasure nerd, and host of the What Excites Us! podcast. I help people untangle desire, shame, relationships, and embodiment in ways that feel grounded, trauma-informed, and very human.
Ways to Work With Me:
Right now, I’m focused on asynchronous coaching. It’s accessible, nervous-system-friendly, and honestly… a lot more integrated than a single intense session.
Text based or email coaching
Coaching for people who don’t want to schedule another call.
It’s like in-person or video coaching… without the pressure to be coherent on demand and remember everything afterward. The conversation unfolds over time, so insights have room to land, shift, and integrate. And because it’s written, you can revisit the thread anytime… like a living journal of your process.
A lot of people find writing feels more spacious and private for exploring tender, taboo, or complicated topics.
If you’re curious, you can read this Bustle article featuring a conversation between the author and me about how this works.
There are two rhythms below. Choose the one that fits your life.
There are two options, which one suits you best?
You get:
One structured written coaching response per week
Reflection prompts, reframes, and practices
A continuous written thread you can revisit
A calibration phase in the first few days so we can feel out pacing, boundaries, and what support actually feels like for you
Good fit if you:
Process best in writing
Like a predictable rhythm
Want support without ongoing back-and-forth
Unfolding Rhythm - Monthly Support
More frequent touchpoints without scheduling sessions.
You get:
Three thoughtful coaching responses per week
Ongoing written conversation as things arise
Guidance, nervous-system-friendly practices, and integration prompts
A calibration phase in the first few days to tune pacing and boundaries
Good fit if you:
Want support in real-life moments
Prefer frequent touchpoints
Don’t want to schedule calls or perform coherence on camera
Messaging & Response Rhythm
You’re welcome to write as often as you want. Brain dump, spiral, bullet point, ramble. All of it is welcome.
I respond in thoughtful, consolidated messages during coaching hours based on your plan. This keeps the work grounded and gives your nervous system space to integrate rather than react.
Alignment Window
If within the first 14 days you feel this container is not aligned, you can end the agreement and receive a prorated refund for unused time. After that, all payments are non-refundable, as this is a time and presence based service.
This is set up as a subscription, meaning you will be charged monthly until you cancel.
This Is For You If:
You’re curious about your desire and want to understand it more deeply
You’re tired of pretending sex is fine
You want to explore boundaries, communication, libido, kink, identity, or pleasure
You prefer writing over talking, or just don’t want another Zoom call
You want a steady, trauma-informed presence in your process
This Is Not For You If:
You need immediate or crisis support
You want real-time chat or on-demand responses
You prefer long live sessions over written reflection
You want someone to fix you instead of walking with you while you notice yourself
If you’re just beginning…
to explore desire, pleasure, and agency, my book Permission to Want Again is a gentle, grounded place to start. It’s a permission-based guide to reclaiming desire, boundaries, presence, and pleasure… without pressure to perform or transform overnight.
You can explore the book here
And if even that feels like too much right now…
I made a free mini guide you can use quietly, in your own time.
Get the Free Mini Guide here
A Quick Note on Sex Coaching
Sex coaching isn’t about tricks, performance metrics, or getting your partner to do something. It’s about permission, presence, and practice. It’s about learning to listen to your body, name your desires, and create relationships that feel more honest and alive.
And yes… we can talk about orgasms, communication, kink, trauma, boredom, opening up, asking your partner to try things, being vulnerable and all the other things you were told not to talk about.
Ready to Begin?
Choose your rhythm, and we’ll start with a gentle calibration so this feels supportive, not overwhelming.
Tiny messages. Real integration. No performance required.