The FLIRTY Promise
Policies that govern money, inclusion, respect, and your privacy
The Earthly Desire Mission
I believe pleasure is the key that unlocks life's treasures.
My mission is to help people reclaim their desire, their pleasure, and their power. I've seen that when we're wholly satisfied with who we are and how we live, we become kinder people.
I want this work to be safe, inclusive, and within reach for everyone who's ready to come home to their body, and everything on this page is how I keep that promise.
FLIRTY stands for:
Financial Access:
Pleasure isn’t just for people who can ‘afford’ it
I know how often the work we want to do feels out of reach... so we piece together little bits from whatever free info we can find. And I know from personal experience how much longer and harder that makes everything.
I also know there are plenty of people who feel really comfortable with where my offerings are priced, and some have even told me my prices are too low. So I've made room for both.
Squarespace doesn't make a true sliding scale easy, so every service and download has 3 payment options. Pick the one that fits where you are right now. If you can pay at the higher level, you're directly helping someone else get access. And if even the lowest option feels out of reach, please email me. I'm certain we can work something out!
Equity ... for when you could really use a helping hand right now. No explanation needed, no guilt allowed.
Standard ... for when you can cover this without sweating it.
Abundant ... for when you're feeling resourced and happy to share. This tier directly helps someone else get in the door.
I've also created a Pay It Forward Fund. If you are purchasing an add on of $33. makes it super easy, barely an inconvenience. Or you can donate an amount of your choosing here. If you need support from it, just email me at gwyn@earthlydesire.com.
I keep track of every donation and use it directly to help others access my offerings. If the fund ever grows bigger than what's needed, I'll donate it and share where it went publicly.
Limits:
Good boundaries make everything safer (and honestly, sexier)
Clear limits are part of what makes this work safe for both of us, so let me be upfront about what I do, what I don't, and how I hold the line.
What coaching is (and isn't)
Coaching is forward-focused. We look at where you are, what you want, and what's getting in the way, and we build a path toward more pleasure, more connection, and more you. It isn't therapy, medical care, or crisis support. I don't diagnose, and I don't treat mental health conditions.
When I'll refer you out
If something comes up that needs a therapist, doctor, pelvic floor PT, or other specialist, I'll tell you, and I'll help you find someone good. Referring out isn't me passing you off... it's me making sure you get the right support. And a lot of my clients work with me alongside a therapist, which can be a beautiful combo.
If you're in crisis
Please reach out to a crisis line or emergency services right away. I care about you too much to be your only lifeline.
Our boundaries
Our relationship stays professional. There's no sexual contact between us, ever, and I don't take on clients I have a close personal relationship with, because that muddies everything. Sometimes a real friendship grows once our work together is complete, and that can be a beautiful thing. But it's never expected, and it never happens while we're working together.
With the work you do between sessions or messages are always optional. Any embodiment practices are things you do, for yourself, at your own pace, and you can always say no or skip something. No justifications needed.
Inclusion:
All of you is welcome here. Yes, even that part.
Pleasure belongs to all of us, for our whole lives. Not just the young, the thin, the partnered, the straight, or the people who fit some narrow idea of what "sexy" looks like. So let me be really clear about who this space is for.
Who I work with
I work primarily with women and AFAB folks, and I also enjoy working with thoughtful cis men who are ready to do their own work, including unpacking some of the societal beliefs. I'm LGBTQIA+ affirming, kink affirming, and poly affirming, and I welcome all bodies, all abilities, all backgrounds, all faiths (or no faith at all), and people across the political spectrum... as long as you bring respect for everyone else's right to be here too. Partnered, single, married, dating three people, celibate by choice, figuring it out, or somewhere in between... you belong here.
Different beliefs welcome
I genuinely believe it's good for us to be in conversation with people who see the world differently. It stretches us, softens us, and reminds us how much we actually have in common, especially when it comes to wanting to feel loved, desired, and at home in our bodies. You don't have to share my beliefs to work with me, and I'll never ask you to leave yours at the door.
Every stage of life
Whether you're just starting to explore, raising little ones and running on empty, navigating perimenopause or menopause, freshly divorced, newly empty nested, or finding your spark again in your 60s, 70s, and beyond... your desire still matters. There's no age where pleasure expires.
You don't have to fit a box
You don't need a label, a clear identity, or a tidy story to work with me. If you're questioning, shifting, or just not sure yet, that's welcome. Curiosity is more than enough to start.
Where my lens has limits
I'm one human with my own lived experience, and there are experiences I'll never fully know from the inside. I'm committed to keep learning, keep listening, and keep unlearning the stuff culture taught all of us. When I don't know something, I'll say so. And if your identity or experience means you'd feel more at home with a practitioner who shares it, I'll happily help you find one.
Respect:
Come as you are, go at your pace
You can't explore desire, shame, or pleasure somewhere you're bracing to be judged... so respect is the ground everything here stands on.
Nothing is too taboo
I've heard a lot, and very little surprises me. Your fantasies, your kinks, your curiosities, your "is this weird?" questions, the thing you've never said out loud to anyone... none of it is too much or too strange for this space. As long as it's between consenting adults and nobody's being harmed, it's welcome here. And if you don't know what you want yet? That's welcome too.
At your pace, on your terms
I work in a trauma-aware way, which means nothing gets rushed or forced. We go at the speed your nervous system can actually handle. I'll check in with you, I'll ask before we go deeper, and you always have the right to pass, pause, or change your mind. Consent isn't a one-time box we tick at the start... it's woven into every session.
You're the expert on you
I bring tools, training, and perspective. You bring the wisdom about your own life, your body, and what feels right. I'll never tell you what your desire "should" look like. We figure out what's true for you, together.
Your words, your names
I'll use your name, your pronouns, and your language for your body and your experiences. If I'm not sure, I'll ask.
Your relationships are yours
If you have a partner (or partners), I won't take sides, badmouth anyone, or push you toward staying or leaving. My job is to help you get clear on what you want, and what you do with that is always your choice.
No pressure, no pushy sales
If I think one of my offers could genuinely support you, I'll tell you about it. That's it. "No thanks" is always a complete answer, and it will never change how I show up for you.
Respect goes both ways
I ask the same care in return... honest communication with me, and kindness toward anyone you share space with in my circles, classes, or community. That's how we keep this space safe for everyone.
Tell me if I get it wrong
If anything I've said or done didn't feel respectful, affirming, or inclusive, please tell me at gwyn@earthlydesire.com. You won't get defensiveness from me. I'll listen, I'll thank you, and I'll do better.
Trust:
Because you deserve to know who you're trusting with the tender stuff
Okay, let's talk about how I actually practice... because this work is intimate, and you deserve to know exactly who you're letting in.
I'm a Certified Clinical Sexologist and Sex & Intimacy Coach, trained through Sex Coach U. I've also trained with Barbara Carrellas in her Urban Tantra Professional Training and with Midori in Forte Femme, and I've been doing this work with real humans since 2017. I'm always learning, because bodies and desire and culture keep evolving, and so should I.
I practice under the Sex Coach U Code of Ethics... which honestly reads like a love letter to sexual freedom, consent, and inclusion. It's rooted in the belief that sexual rights are human rights, and that every adult deserves to explore their sexuality with consent and without harm. I'm proud to be accountable to it.
If something doesn't feel right
I'm human, and I mess up sometimes. If anything I've said or done doesn't sit right with you, please tell me at gwyn@earthlydesire.com. I'll listen, I won't get defensive, and I'll do my best to make it right.
Yours:
Privacy is Sacred Here
What stays between us
Everything you share in our sessions is confidential. I don't talk about my clients. I will never share your name, your story, or anything identifying. The only exceptions are if I believe you or someone else is in serious danger, or if I'm legally required to share something.
Nobody else sees your stuff
No one on my team ever has access to your session notes, messages, or private information. Ever. Sometimes I might ask a trusted colleague for a second set of ears on how to best support a client, and if I do, I leave out anything that could identify you. It's one more way I make sure you're getting the very best support.
Notes, recordings, and messages
I don't record our one-on-one sessions. I do take notes so I can support you well, and they're kept in a locked, secure file. Three years after we finish working together, I delete them, because honestly, by then they're not relevant to who you are anymore. Any messages between us get deleted after one year. I may keep basic contact details so I can stay in touch with you, and that's it.
Testimonials
If you ever want to share kind words about working with me (and I treasure every one), I'll only use them with your explicit permission, and only with your first name or initials, whatever feels comfortable to you. You can change your mind at any time, and I'll take it down.
Group spaces
Some group calls may be recorded, but participants are never recorded without being asked for permission in advance. If you'd rather stay off camera and off mic, you can send your questions ahead of time or drop them in the chat, and I'll read them out for you.
In circles, classes, and community spaces, I ask everyone to keep what's shared there confidential... what's said in the circle stays in the circle. I can't fully control what other people do, so share what feels right for you, and never more than you want.
Want your info deleted?
Just email me at gwyn@earthlydesire.com and I'll take care of it.