What Excites Us!

Episode 12 - The InnThrall B&B

Transcript:

Kathleen  0:00  
moved here one month pre lockdown, fell through every crack as far as relief goes. We close the business in Seattle, and had yet to get our appointment for our permitting hearing. And then  all the government offices were closed and it took like four months I couldn't even open the doors until September.

Gwyn  0:42 
Hi there and welcome to What Excites Us! the show that discusses sex and sexuality throughout time and place, including the here and now. I'm your host, Gwyn Isaacs. Today, I'm chatting with Kathleen Ashford, who owns and operates the InnThrall b&b, which is a luxury kinky destination in Pennsylvania.
It honestly sounds amazing for folks who are lifestyle players, as well as people who would simply enjoy a private, opulent romantic getaway, with some added sex toys and a private pool and a place where you don't have to worry about the neighbors or making a mess when you get it on with your honey or honeys.
Kathleen is a retired professional dominatrix from the Seattle area where the first incarnation of InnThrall was located. As you heard in the cold open, she moved east right before the pandemic started, and therefore has had plenty of time to build it into the perfect COVID safe haven getaway. A quick note about the sound in this recording. We were chatting during a conference in our hotel room. So there are moments where you can hear other folks in the hallways and doorways closing and the room sounds maybe a little bit more echoey than usual. That's just the way it goes sometimes. But between learning about InnThrall and the other little tidbits that come up in the conversation, it was too good not to publish. Enjoy!

So we sort of jumped into the middle we

Kathleen  2:23  
Oh yeah, I do that.

Gwyn Isaacs  2:25 
Where is in thrall located?

Kathleen  2:26  
Yes. Okay. It's a good one. It's on the outskirts of Redding, near a National Forest. And it's like an in a crystal castle, atop a mountain. Like surrounded by an enchanted forest. There's a magic bridge like it's out of a fairy tale. There's deer that visit the edges of the yard and sure, chipmunks and it came with a cat that we feed regularly.

Gwyn  3:01  
That's amazing.

Kathleen  3:02  
Yeah, she's our little ambassador.

Gwyn  3:04  
Sure.

Kathleen  3:05 
But we built her house.

Gwyn Isaacs  3:09  
That's really lovely. Yeah, when you were looking to relocate, were you set on a specific area, or were you looking for the property.

Kathleen  3:16  
Um, I had a lot of criteria, a lot. And most of it pointed us toward the east coast. And I started looking in sort of 150 mile radius from where we landed. Because I wanted to be near major metropolitan areas and international airports. The price point is high. And a lot of people fly in for the experience. It's a destination experience. Some people are lucky enough to be local and able to just drive over. But I had some guests who recently drove I think nine hours from Kentucky.

Gwyn  4:13  
Wow

Kathleen  4:13
Just to come stay for three nights. 

Gwyn  4:16 
That's lovely. 

Kathleen  4:18
It's amazing. To me, it feels like the deepest compliment InnThrall is my passion project. My Heart Project is I would rather say.

Gwyn Isaacs  4:30
So you had it before in Seattle. And you said you wanted to make it bigger and better. Tell me some of the things that are bigger and better. 

Kathleen  4:39  
Well, the house itself is definitely bigger. We relocated from a suburb, a split level in the suburbs of Seattle with neighbors and everything. 

Gwyn  4:56  
There you go. 

Kathleen  4:57
And I operated it for a number of years and none of the neighbors ever knew a thing, the address isn't given out until a certain number of days prior to the reservation. And people have been lovely about keeping it very private. Keep it secret, keep it safe. And that suits my privacy wishes as well.

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Gwyn  6:39 
Is there a vetting process that you go through? When people inquire?

Kathleen  6:44  
Honestly, no, like with any hotel or a bed and breakfast, you don't really get to choose who walks through the door. And that's part of the excitement is having zero preconceived notions about who you're about to me. And I think often if I had vetted or looked on, you know, social media profiles or something like that, I, I would probably have a very different idea about who actually showed up. If I were to use my very well educated imagination in the land of kink, I would still get it different or wrong. In a number of cases, some of them I can easily able.

Gwyn Isaacs  7:42  
Sure. So when a guest comes is it just one booking per time, or do you have several rooms or...

Kathleen7:52  
currently I'm just operating the one suite, which with the pool room makes it a 3000 square foot suite. 

Gwyn  8:00  
That's amazing. 

Kathleen  8:01  
So it's it's significant. 

Gwyn  8:03  
The mega suite house? 

Kathleen  8:05  
Yeah, right. And I'm operating it contact free for pandemic reasons. And I have been since we, since I opened on this coast, guests get temp checked. And that's about it. So as far as vetting them, no I I don't get to choose. And I'm glad I don't. Because I would miss out on a lot of people that are amazing. And I'm so lucky to have met and who have become friends over the years they return I was amazed that InnThrall got return guests, I thought it would be a novelty that people would do once and you know, say what fun and it turns out it means a lot to people to have what it offers.

Gwyn Isaacs  9:02  
Yeah. Yeah, it's something that I've looked into not owning but going to renting for special occasions sort of thing. It's never worked out yet. But who knows. Now that you're here, maybe it will work out.

Kathleen  9:17  
I mean, I'm really good at this stuff. So if you want to make a party go, I can make you a party.

Gwyn Isaacs  9:25  
Excellent. So when, if, when the the pandemic ends, will you expand to have more than one guest? 

Kathleen  9:39  

Correct. There is a second suite that is currently being built out. Called the chambers of hear and now it's another mega suite. I was going to do three suites but I decided instead on two mega suites And I'm excited to start sending out the teaser photos and...

Gwyn  10:06  
Sure. Are you on social media? I mean, is...

Kathleen  10:10  
I am, social media it is there's a has a proper website,  InnThrall.com, I n n, and Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, I'm not savvy enough to be on anything fancier than that at the moment. But honestly, that's all I can manage. Time wise and I have help doing it.

Gwyn  10:38  
Right 

Kathleen  10:38
The social media part. 

Gwyn  10:39  
Thank Goodness. Fetlife? 

Kathleen  10:42  
I am there. I rarely login.

Gwyn Isaacs  10:47  
It just seems like that would be a missed opportunity if you were not there.

Kathleen  10:50  
Totally. I got a personal profile there forever and a professional and when I was when I was a dominatrix. So yeah, InnThrall has its own profile on FetLife. 

Gwyn  11:03  
Excellent. 

Kathleen  11:03  
Yeah.

Gwyn Isaacs  11:04  
How long on average do people come for?

Kathleen 11:08  
It's a two night minimum. So most people do do two nights. Three nights are not uncommon, especially when people are flying in from somewhere or driving a long way. Yeah, make it really worth the commute. 

Gwyn  11:25  
Absolutely. 

Kathleen  11:27  
But we we've had five day reservations. 

Gwyn  11:32  
Nice.

Kathleen  11:33  
Right? Yeah, just immersing yourself. And I like to think of it as a magic bubble where partners can come together and step out of time, and be so incredibly present with one another, that you can't help, But along with the best sex you've had in a long time, the depth of connection that can be achieved when you take all of those obstacles out of the way. There is no ringing phones. There was no clocks, there is no televisions. It's just you, you can obviously wear a watch, have a phone, whatever.

Gwyn Isaacs  12:25  
You don't take your phones at the door?

Kathleen  12:27  
Nothing like that. Some people have to take work calls. So I don't remember, 

Gwyn Isaacs  12:37  
just thats it's an oasis?

Kathleen  12:38  
Yes, it is. It's a sanctuary of sorts. I keep using quasi religious language with it. And I'm not a religious person and never have been. But I like to design around a feeling for the spaces. And with the inner sanctum here, the feeling that I want people to have on some level, ideally, is that they've stepped into a church that was made just for them. 

Gwyn  13:15  
Oh, that makes a lot of sense. 

Kathleen  13:18  
And I don't mean church in a religious sense, just in as a sacred place

Gwyn Isaacs  13:24  
well so much of I mean, I'm sure this isn't true for everybody. But for me, a lot of good kink scenes end up being very spiritual.

Kathleen  13:34  
Absolutely. So many 

Gwyn  13:36  
Transcendent. 

Kathleen  13:37  
Exactly.

Gwyn Isaacs  13:39  
And I mean, not that that happens every time. 

Kathleen  13:42  
But when it does, it's so lovely. And it's a state that is achieved during S&M or BDSM sessions. Often, and sometimes intentionally. 

Gwyn  14:00  
Yeah, absolutely. 

Kathleen  14:02  
So some, very often unintentionally, like, oh my gosh, I didn't know I could access this plane. 

Gwyn  14:10  
How did you take me there? 

Kathleen  14:11  
Right. And what it comes down to is being safe enough to be that vulnerable.

Gwyn  14:20  
Yeah. 

Kathleen  14:21
When you're dealing with sex and kink, especially. You're dealing with such raw psyche. And tread gently and, but also find one another exactly where you are. And it's your magic bubble. And some of that you get to take home with you. At least that's what I hear.

Gwyn  14:53  
Timothy Leary, I think was the person who talked about set and setting being so important for psychedelic experiences. I find that as a sex coach, it's also really important when encouraging people to have conversations, or to get into that place where they can be vulnerable with one another, you know, throw a red thing over your lamp, and suddenly, it's a whole different mood. 

Kathleen  15:21  
It is! So the lighting is a lot. 

Gwyn  15:23  
It's true. So the idea of going to somewhere specifically designed with set and setting in mind, yes, just sounds magical.

Unknown Speaker  15:37  
It is a kinky B&B . But it's also a romantic getaway.

Gwyn Isaacs  15:43  
Well, I mean, ya...

Kathleen  15:45  
and it has it comes with, if that's helpful to someone, the opportunity to also book a consultation, if they have questions or want to learn how to do a specific activity and not kill their partner. And hopefully everybody has a fine time. And there's no reason why anybody but myself should know what everything in this place does. Right? There's some obscure things. But maybe I can introduce you to something that floats your boat.

Gwyn Isaacs  16:20  
Yeah. Oh, that's really nifty. The Yeah, the addition of a small teaching session sounds amazing.

Kathleen  16:30  
It's yeah, it's kind of like your own personal hosted guests only sex coach. Yeah. Or kink coach 

Gwyn  16:37  
activities coach. Yeah, 

Kathleen  16:38  
often it comes down to being an interspecies translator.

Gwyn  16:43  
Really? tell me more about that.

Kathleen  16:46
Language, finding language to even have a conversation is incredibly challenging. I remember, pardon my, my ring. We didn't even used to have a word for polyamory. It was just cheating. Or possibly non monogamous.

Gwyn Isaacs  17:12
When I was a teenager, I have never been monogamous my entire life. Right. It was a teenager, we called it an open relationship.

Kathleen  17:19  
That was another term that was, you know, people kind of look to you like, Yeah, but now we have language around something, and we can speak intelligently on it. And it's the same thing with sex. And a lot of us didn't grow up with a supportive place to learn  about sex and ask questions and a judgment free zone, etc, etc. And oftentimes, there will be one partner who has a specific fantasy, and the other partner is game, they're they're they're down and, but they don't know how that goes. And they tried to get more information from the partner one. And there's a lot of kind of stuttering around it. And it's usually a fantasy that started a long time ago. Maybe it's been 20 years, it's become very sophisticated inside of their brain, how the hell is partner two supposed to know what any of that looks like, in the movie in their head? So being able to draw that out and say, Okay, what I'm hearing is this, does that sound right to you? Okay, cool. That makes sense. And just get the opportunity to ask questions. I love my overarching life's mission is to give others a safe space and permission to explore. And I mean, explore one another and your own sexuality and see what rabbit trails there may be, if something's gotten stagnant for lack of a better word. Maybe something will inspire you. And there's a rabbit trail for you to explore.

Gwyn  19:36  
You have such a calming energy. At least sitting here with me, 

Kathleen  19:42  
thank you

Gwyn  19:45
that I can I can easily imagine people feeling comfortable to open up and because a lot of those fantasies that have been in there forever and you don't tell anybody and it's like oh, there's some shame usually. Even with it's even when you're with somebody who was also kinky. Umm you know, it all gets like compacted. And it's really hard to tease that out.

Kathleen  20:11  
Like getting the language and the conversation started. Then you've got something to work with. And even when you go home, right,

Gwyn Isaacs  20:20  
it's like when, when you have a big ball of yarn, and it's all knotted up, and you can, if you can find that one piece that you can pull out, you can sort of find a

Kathleen  20:30  
really good skill it seems for being able to find those threads and help people have better sex. I mean, what's better than filling the world with love, joy and orgasms?

Gwyn  20:48  
I love that so much. Can I use that 

Kathleen  20:52  
I mean, I use it plenty, and you're welcome to it. 

Gwyn  20:56  
Ohh Love Joy and Orgasms

Kathleen  20:57  
What I want people to do when they come I want them to fill my walls. 

Gwyn  21:03  
Sure. 

Kathleen  21:04  
And I can tell you, you know, five years in the original location, nothing visible, nothing you could measure. But the walls were just an infused with a sexual energy. And it was in everything. And I've even heard in this new location, people say how can you walk in and not in immediately become turned on? And, and this was just overheard. And they the persons like? Oh, my gosh. And I tried to give opportunity for questions to be asked at any up anytime during the tour. But there's usually such a sense of overwhelm that like if you have questions later, no problem.

Gwyn  21:59  
And so you're reachable via text 

Kathleen  22:01  
Correct 

Gwyn  22:02
The entire time?

Kathleen  22:03 
Yes. 

Gwyn  22:04
That's wonderful. 

Kathleen  22:04  
Yes. 

Gwyn  22:05
So you said it's a well appointed dungeon. So my first think, thought, Goddd

Kathleen  22:14  
Think thought

Gwyn  22:15  
my first thought is, you know, big St. Andrew's Cross and maybe a Jacob's Ladder sort of thing and a whole bunch of acouturement, whips and paddles and that sort of thing. So is it all of that is it the implements as well as the furniture?

Kathleen  22:34  
Yes, it is the furnishings as well as the gear. So I've in my prior career, I was a professional dominatrix for 15 years. And in a previous life, I've worked in a hospital and I'm very very very fussy. This is why I've never shared a dungeon with anybody. I always had to have my own because I couldn't trust anybody else's cleaning standards. And I knew that as well. You know I couldn't do it differently. My my clients really appreciated it. And they got Yeah, so it's one of the first things that you can do to relax in a new place is know that it's clean. 

Gwyn  23:25  
Yeah, absolutely. 

Kathleen  23:26  
I want to walk into a place and feel as though it's possible that nobody's ever been here before. So I will chase that last hair. I will. I'll get it too. But now the dungeon it does have a St Andrew's Cross it does have a latticework rack on the backside there is a wall frame bondage frame. There is a sling with a with a leather sling hanging from chains. There's a suspension rig with you know all sorts of things you could hang from it but there will be a yoga swing already ready for you for your your yoga needs. Yeah, your machine washable yoga needs. There are a couple of sex machines and a nice complement of acoutrement for both. Touchless lube dispenser on the wall. I tried it I can't help but think of everything because it's all I really want to think about.

Gwyn Isaacs  24:37  
That's so beautiful. Do you have limits on what people can do?

Kathleen  24:43  
I do have three major house rules which are... number one is hydrate and the mini fridge is stocked with waters and electrolyte beverages. And there's straws for ya know, in case of long term bondage also, so no excuses, hydrate. And number two is no dying allowed. I find that number one helps a lot with that. So far, so good. People are great at the rules. And then number three is no stilettos on the bed but in the air is cool. Excellent. I try to legislate as little as I can get away with. If somebody has for instance, any sort of a messy scene whether they're going for the for lovely squirt or

Gwyn Isaacs  25:43  
splash plays, you know,

Kathleen  25:45  
I've got drop cloths available. I have a splash pads, both disposable and launderable I have what I call, sacrificial sheets folded on the shelf. There's nothing wrong with them, but they're never going to be pretty enough to go on a bed again. Or they lost their friends and that you know, in the hierarchy of sheets, this is where they land and if they need to die in a fire. It's fine

Gwyn  26:12  
That's amazing. I love that

Kathleen  26:17  
I have a saying, laundry happens, so yeah, like, don't worry if you if you have a lovely squirt. Yeah, we're ready for you.

Gwyn Isaacs  26:32  
Excellent. Yeah, and, and some of the messier play can be exceptionally messy.

Kathleen  26:38  
Oh, yeah. Especially like you're saying slashing food play. And just,

Gwyn  26:44  
I mean, even body paint can get 

Kathleen  26:46  
Oh, yes. 

Gwyn  26:48
pretty messy. 

Kathleen  26:49
And, and, you know, if there's a situation where it's going to cost me a lot of extra time to clean up, then I may have to, you know, add an additional cleaning fee. Because I but I already plan. There's already a day between any reservations. 

Gwyn  27:10  
Sure, 

Kathleen  27:10 
That's blank, to make sure that everything can be a sparkly as it needs to be 

Gwyn  27:16  
reset 

Kathleen  27:16  
The standard of cleaning is am I willing to put my vulva there? My fussy vagina and vulva am I willing to put it there, wherever there is? And until the answer is yes, it's you know, keep cleaning.

Gwyn  27:39  
I wish everybody had that, not just for sex. 

Kathleen  27:44  
Maybe this pleases a whole bunch of what what I want. And that's what I want. I looked for what I wanted. I did not find it in a real way. So I made it. 

Gwyn  27:54  
Yeah. Yeah. 

Kathleen  27:56  
And it turns out that people were into it. And and yes, it's certainly it's not the first one that's ever existed in the States. There's a couple that are have been around for a long time with lovely reputations. But this one was just a different feel for me, then what I found elsewhere.

Gwyn  28:21  
Sure. You say your b&b. Are you serving breakfast? 

Kathleen  28:26  
I am.

Gwyn  28:27 
Oh, my gosh,

Kathleen  28:28  
Your breakfast will be delivered to the airlock chamber on a fancy tray on a fancy cart. 

Gwyn  28:34  
Wow. And are you also the cook?

Kathleen  28:37 
I am. 

Gwyn  28:38
Oh my goodness.

Kathleen  28:39  
Yes. Yes, you will have a delightful breakfast and your dietary preferences, aversions, requirements. they're all taken into account before you arrive. So when I go grocery shopping, it's for you, ya know, and everything's is organic and fresh as can be and

Gwyn  29:03  
Just sounds lovely. 

Kathleen  29:05  
And it usually last people through lunchtime, so they just have to order in for dinner. Because even if they made a reservation they'll probably order in 

Gwyn  29:14
Ya, I wouldn't wanna go anywhere. 

Kathleen  29:16
Nobody's gonna want to put their clothes back on if they don't have to, no.

Gwyn  29:22 
So GrubHub or whatever will come out to your place?

Kathleen  29:25  
It seems that all the apps will deliver. 

Gwyn  29:27  
Excellent. Yes, it's an important consideration.

Kathleen  29:32  
Definitely. Because at the moment has a basically, you know, there's myself and my partner who very much likes to stay behind the scenes, but is incredibly supportive and very much a part of this. And that's it. Moving here just to have the pandemic. I was like no problem I'll meet people make community on the I don't doesn't matter I don't know anybody on the East Coast. And I'll go to conventions and such and find my people and, and then COVID Are you oh no friends for you. So FaceTime became a real.

Gwyn Isaacs  30:29  
So did you end up having to do construction? Like, you know, sheetrock and that sort of thing? Or were you able to

Kathleen  30:38  
flooring? Yeah. Yeah. Removing and putting in flooring

Gwyn  30:46  
on your own because it's a pandemic.

Kathleen  30:50  
Yeah, and I tried hiring people for a couple of things like housecleaning and with the even written agreements that they would wear a mask and would walk walk around the corner and there they are, like with with it under their chin, and I'm wearing a mask in my house, because that's what's up. So I was like, no, not worth the risk. I guess. I'm just gonna have to do it myself until I find the right person.

Gwyn  31:21  
YouTube. I mean, I don't know if that's what you did. But I also I so I was selling my house or planned on selling my house. And it was like, Okay, I'm gonna go back to Vermont. I'm gonna pack and clean and I'm gonna get me and my two elder teens and apartments where it's a lot easier to do it in an empty space. And the day that we moved was the day before our state got shut down.

Kathleen  31:47  
Oh, my goodness.

Gwyn Isaacs  31:49  
So and I have two or three friends who do cleaning. Yeah. And all of them had compromised family members. And I lived in this house for 12 years with five children.

Kathleen  32:03  
Oh, dear.

Gwyn Isaacs  32:05  
Took a year, full year by myself to

Kathleen  32:09  
get it to where it needed to be to. Yeah. And I learned how to do sheetrocksheet rock. Yes. I try not to but I can do a wee bit of plumbing I do. I never touch electrical. But my partner's is knows how to do that. I'm not touching it

Gwyn  32:35  
Ya, no, electricity is scary.

Kathleen  32:37
But you'll see photos on the website. For instance the St. Andrew's Cross, I built that. And just to vouch for the construction, it's been in a professional dungeon. And it's still standing just as strong as ever. 20 years later.

Gwyn  33:00  
Beautiful. Yeah, that's lovely

Kathleen  33:03  
I give it a coat of poly and maybe a little stain touch up now and then. 

Gwyn  33:07  
Sure!

Kathleen  33:07  
It is sturdy. And that is like one of the first rules is make it sturdy and then make it pretty. Yes. I feel like oh, look at this lovely charming table and then like, people will fuck on that. It needs to be sturdy. They need to be free to fuck on that. I want that for them. So if there's an end table, it's probably very sturdy.

Gwyn Isaacs  33:30  
So everything in the suite is designed to be fucked upon.

Kathleen  33:35  
umm pretty much

Gwyn  33:38  
you know, stuff.

Kathleen  33:40  

Actually, the breakfast area and bar are topped with slate and and just like they're in the cement in the floor. So as sturdy Yeah, go for it. 

Gwyn  33:57  
That's beautiful. 

Kathleen  33:59  
Like have a Flintstones caveman fantasy. Just like, lie back on the slate. 

Gwyn  34:09  
Oh, that's amazing.

Kathleen  34:11  
You'll be staring at a rock wall. That'd be really cool. Yeah, yeah,

Gwyn  34:15  
That sounds really

Kathleen  34:16  
Just gorgeous stone walls. Yeah, this house is really cool. I'm glad we found it.

Gwyn  34:25  
Yeah, no kidding. You were saying earlier the pool looks out over the mountains? That there is a pool is

Kathleen  34:33  

no it doesn't look over the mountains it but it looks up at the stars. So there's tall kind of greenhouse windows and there's actually plants a dracena and not a palm tree but it looks like one that are growing out of the floor and that they go all the way up to the ceiling. And so there's the canopy of leaves or there's the moon passing overhead. Because I have to name all the rooms something fancy. It's the Twilight Cathedral.

Gwyn  35:10  
Lovely. I love it. I love that there's I'm a plant person. I'm a total plant freak. So yeah, you're like, a dracena, Im like oh ya which one, oh the palm tree

Kathleen  35:24  
You know more than than I do. I'm like, That's not food,

Gwyn  35:27  
right? I have an app. I'm not going to lie. Like, I mean, I am a plant person. I have lots of plants. But when it gets down to like, the technical names, there's an app that I use and like, what is that? Right? Oh, it's a whatever it is. Hollyhock red variety. Like, I don't know,

Kathleen  35:47 
I look at the names. And I try to remember and I don't

Gwyn  35:53  
Do you have folks that come to you who are not terribly experienced who come to InnThrall Correct?

Kathleen  35:59  
Yes. So many are very inexperienced, interesting. Yes. It's not necessarily the kink community. It's often nobody you'd ever suspect. If you were going around, suspecting people. We all I mean, don't get me wrong. There's plenty of seasoned players. Sure. But there's a lot of first timers or they've been talking about it for a while. But yeah, for whatever reasons, they're not comfortable going to a club or a party or signing up to be a member of whatever. And where are they going to go? Where is a private dungeon, right, okay, is it does it meet the standards and are we going to be comfortable there? 

Gwyn  36:53
Oh, that's not something I would have thought

Kathleen  36:57  
And, and then what if what if the fantasy about being flogged turns out you don't actually enjoy being flogged. But this $400 flogger is now in the bottom of our drawer? What you know, and InnThrall gives people the opportunity also to experiment with a lot of the range of toys. They can choose from assorted floggers find what they do enjoy the most. Is it stingy is it thuddy? Is it deer skin? Or is it buffalo or kangaroos? And that's really helpful in guiding their shopping decisions later.

Gwyn  37:45  
Sure. And I yeah, that's brilliant. And I love that you also make yourself available to them because I imagine that some of that comes up during their stay

Kathleen  37:57 
There's so many questions, and there's no reason why they ought to know the answers. And I love questions. So and I love helping people have a better sex life. And I especially love empowering women. And I think that a lot of times it's technical skills. So if you can teach them the competence, it equals the confidence which equals sexy. Because how sexy is confidence?

Gwyn  38:41
That's wonderful. I, I'm, I can't wait until I can come. I can afford it and then I can come so y'all can help me afford it.

Kathleen  38:54  
Yes... Help her out

Gwyn Isaacs  39:01  [AD]
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Gwyn  40:42 
And so the last question that I asked everybody, okay, is what excites you?

Kathleen  40:51  
I find it very exciting to hear what it means to couples, or moresomes to have the space and the atmosphere and the experience overall that InnThrall offers and what I thought would be cool, fun. Sexy, kinky. It's all of that and more. But it's also deeply meaningful to connect with your partner or partners in this way, and I love seeing guests guess go from nervous to sweaty giggling messes. It's the best. I love it.

Gwyn  41:41  
I love that answer so much. Thank you so much. This has been wonderful.

Kathleen  41:46  
Thank you for the invitation. I really appreciate it

Gwyn  41:50  
My pleasure. Yay

Kathleen 41:53  
So InnThrall.com And I love, questions. 

Gwyn  41:57  
Excellent. Thank you

So, how badly do you want to visit InnThrall? I'm not a huge water person. But the idea of a private pool enjoying the country stars after a delicious day of intimacy with my sweetie sounds absolutely amazing. Especially these days where we are all struggling so much from this pandemic, a getaway could go a long way towards recharging. If you would like to book your vacation, please visit innthrall.com that's i n n t h r a l l.com and be sure to tell them you heard about it here on What Excites Us!

What Excites Us is produced and edited and hosted by me Gwyn Isaacs, all music is used under the Creative Commons Attribution license. This week that includes The Vendetta by Steven Kartenberg. Let me talk, Carol by Josh Woodward. Harmony by PolyPlus. And this is Trygve Larsen, who also goes by this Nesrality the track is called Enthralled by the Rising Star. Tickle.life hosts this and many other podcasts about sexuality and sex, as well as having lots of other great text based content. Please check them out at Tickle dot life. Thanks for listening. I super appreciate you. And if you like it, tell a friend. That would be so cool. Thanks again.