Musings, Reviews and
Answers to your Sex-Ed Questions
How to “decide” if you are gay
The short answer is, you don’t. The letters are: Lesbian Gay Bi Trans Queer or Questioning Intersex Asexual + meaning if these words don’t feel right to you and hetero doesn’t either you still get to be under the umbrella.
Tongue Tied by Stella Harris
This is a wonderful book that I draw on and recommend to clients and acquaintances often!
One of the best books available to talk about talking with your lover. While it’s specifically written for folks in or looking for a relationship, I found that all of the information can be used when talking to anyone from your boss, to your kids and of course your partner.
Do you miss your libido?
I hear this from women so often! Here are some ideas to help you reclaim your libido. *Disclaimer: this is for folks who are experiencing diminished sex drive, which feels unusual. Although some of the tips can help raise your libido in general. It is not to try and keep up with your partner. Mismatched libido is another challenge we can have (you are normal, no matter what anyone tells you).
Dating and Parenting
So, you’ve decided you want to have some adult fun. Rock on! You deserve to enjoy your life. However, your darling offspring have other ideas. They might guilt you for having a life, or rebel when asked to pick up a little more responsibility around the house.
Why I wanted to be a *Certified* Sex Coach
Some of my colleagues (and friends too) have suggested that spending time and money getting a certification from Sex Coach U as a sexologist and sex coach wasn’t necessary since there is no licensing board, standardized guidelines or practice methods. However, I feel as though that is a large part of why I wanted to do the work and graduate.
Kinky Sex Tips for Curious Girls by Natasha Strange
Written for those who are just beginning to consider playing with kink, the author does a fantastic job of starting with basic concepts and moving the reader all the way through trying specific activities for people interested in either topping or bottoming (or both).
What I do as a Sex Coach
People wonder what a sex coach does, and there are many varieties of coaching. I use a talk or text-based conversation style that lets us get to the heart of your concerns and develop practices that will help you get to where you want to be. This is a video going deeper into this conversation.
The Little Vanilla Book… by Lux Alani
Usually, picking up a book with ‘S&M’ and a corset on the cover seems quite racy, I assure you this one is more about life wisdom than BDSM. Ms. Alani spent time as a professional dominatrix and draws on that experience and language to offer the reader some useful insights towards personal growth.